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  My New Year Resolution? To follow through with my New Year’s resolution. It’s that time of year again. The Christmas holidays are drawing to a close, and 2021 is just around the corner. Many of us will be using this in-between period to reflect on the past year, and set goals for the next one. Some will be looking to lose weight by exercising regularly and eating healthily. Others want to be more organised, spend less money, or quit smoking. They’re all great ideas, and everyone has big plans to transform their lives, but the harsh reality is that most people will be unsuccessful. According to  ​ these stats ​ , 92% of people who set New Year’s resolutions failed to achieve them... 78% of them by February. Ninety two percent! That’s a pretty big portion of people. But why is that? The reason is simple: Too little commitment for too intangible goals. We see the summit but we don’t see the hike. And then give up. A core part of the “Bucketlistology” (the coaching principles be...

  With work, school, homework, after school activities, friends and more, there are countless activities that compete for time on the family calendar. Family time, however, can serve as an escape from the demands and deadlines of daily life, and is paramount in building strong relationships. One of the most important benefits of spending time together is also one of the simplest: creating memories that will last a lifetime. Whether it's playing a game together, attending an event, going on vacation or just sitting in the living room or around the table talking and laughing, positive memories are beloved possessions that give family members a sense of belonging and can help reinforce the importance of family. Family time offers many benefits, including building confidence, creating a stronger emotional bond between family members, improving communication skills, better performance in school and reduced behavioral issues, as well as providing an opportunity to make memories built on ...

It's hard to adjust to a world seemingly spinning out of control. Getting ahead in the "old" economy is getting harder and harder. There are limited resources for men who want to challenge the status quo, who want to break out from the "shoulda" that rule them, who are confused any more about what it means to "be a man." While the physiology of male menopause is a measurable fact, I think something else is going on here. After the initial years struggling to achieve their career aspirations and role as provider, men would do well in recognizing this shift as a desire for greater fulfillment beyond work. Women have fulfilled their role as child bearer and mother. We have no qualms in stating our needs once the kids are off pursuing independent lives. Rat Race Running You Ragged? Most men are probably wondering, "Where the hell do I fit in anymore?" Some men confuse wanting off the rat race roller coaster as the start of a midlife crisis. But a...

  If you are a man over 40, you should have definitely already asked yourself some of these questions. Even men over 30 should be asking themselves these questions. Somehow we as a society have arrived at a point where men seem to be more unsure of themselves, their roles as husbands, fathers, providers. What legacy are you leaving? Ask yourself these questions. What, And Who, Deserves My Attention? What is the greatest benefit that I can provide to those in my immediate circle? How do I grow that circle? What Story Is Holding Me Back? How Satisfied Am I With My Life? When was the last time that I did something for the first time? How can I best connect my potential and skill-set with my purpose (mission)? Today? Tomorrow? This year? What Do I Want? How can I show my wife I appreciate and love her today? What are my priorities? Are they benefiting me and my relationships? My quality of life? Who Inspires Me? Am I creating financial freedom for myself and those around me? What Does...

  Bucket List Couple Workshop Life is all about the people we meet and the experiences we create with them - and who could make these experiences more meaningful than our ‘partner in crime for life’, right? Sounds good in theory but then life happens: When you've been together for a while, especially if you live together, it can get easy to be thoughtless about how you spend your time and just sit around and talk or watch TV. But if you want to avoid getting bored with your relationship or drifting apart after the honeymoon phase is over, it's important to keep planning dates and couples' nights that provide actual quality time. The biggest mistake that couples make is to take their bond for granted by assuming that their connection will stay strong because they love each other. Love is not enough. Whether we're talking about romantic love or the love you have for your dreams, love is critical, but it's not sufficient. R elationships as well as your personal life g...

 This week I've had a lot of discussions with people about Mastermind Groups. All large corporations have a Board of Directors to be sure the company stays true to their mission, hit their numbers and fulfill their responsibility to stockholders. Small businesses (even sole-proprietorships) need them too. But usually, only those small businesses who accept private funding (from banks, angel investors, venture capitalists) have outsiders on their Board of Directors. A professional Board of Directors may not always create a happy, supportive, safe environment for business owners to turn to for problem solving, brainstorming, or even feedback.  On the other hand, we all need a sounding board, experts on our side, and a safe haven in which to ask for and receive help and advice. Every small business owner, CEO, or entrepreneur (in my opinion) must have a Board of Advisors. The easiest and fastest way to put one together is to join/create a Mastermind Group where each member gets a...

 When it comes to achieving your goals, there is nothing more important than your mindset. If you don't have the right mindset, then you are ultimately going to crumble. Fortunately, there are many ways that you can begin to train your mind to develop habits that most successful people have already begun to utilize long ago. In order to strategize for success, you have to begin to weigh every choice that you make against your goal. Will the choices that you make every day help you to become a healthier and more well-rounded version of yourself that will ultimately be capable of the success that you hope to achieve? Are the choices that you're making wise both financially and in terms of long-term success? Are you keeping your endgame in mind as you go through life and find yourself faced with choice after choice to make? Being a strategic thinker in this sense can be very difficult. All of us are emotional and we have devices that can sometimes lead us to feeling trapped by tem...

 Planning can be a challenge for everybody, but especially those who are not born with, in a word, "appreciation" for organization and structure. If you find that you struggle with discipline and order, utilizing a to-do list may be exactly the step you need to take in order to get your life on track. So how does one begin utilizing a to-do list to help them to get on track and stay motivated to succeed?  Surely it isn't as simple as creating a checklist that you can reference. What actually works about creating this type of structure for yourself? And doesn't it only work if you are willing to allow it to work? The truth is that if you are not motivated enough, nothing is going to work for you. You have to take the steps necessary to overcome your hesitations and do whatever needs to be done in order to ensure that you are staying on task. A to-do list is a great starting point, but it isn't going to be the only thing that you do to be successful. Success falls o...

 A lot of cynical people believe that thinking positively is a crock. How is it possible that being obnoxiously optimistic is going to provide you with the tools that you need to become successful? No matter what you think it isn't going to change the world around you, right? While that may be true, thinking positively has been proven in studies to change your mind and body for the better and help you to recognize the opportunities around you.  Whether you want to believe that blind optimism is the key to success or not, there is little dispute that being a positive thinker enhances your quality of life and makes you more likely to seize the opportunities that are around you and stay motivated to follow those opportunities down a path to success. The first thing you need to do in order to begin to think positively is to really examine yourself and your negative thoughts. Be honest with yourself about where these negative thoughts creep up and begin to consume you. It is common...

 A lot of people don't realize just how important it is to have confidence before you ever begin to work on an important task. Achieving goals is often about what you're made of. If you don't believe in yourself and you lack the confidence that you need to get up after a setback, then it is likely that you are going to give up before you even make significant progress. The first thing that you can do for yourself to begin gaining more confidence is to start thinking kinder thoughts. There is a phrase that says that we are each our own worst critic, and most of the time that is very true. When you find yourself overwhelmed by the perception you have of yourself as being not good enough or failure, then you have already sabotaged yourself before you begin working on anything. Instead, start to keep track of the negative things that you say to yourself. Once you have a good idea of just what a big bully you are, begin interrupting those negative thoughts with positive affirmat...

 There are few things more challenging than being able to pick yourself up after a setback. This is especially true if you lack confidence, and are easily shaken by running into challenges. If you don't believe in yourself, the process of working toward a goal can be excruciating. Fortunately, there are many ways that you can start to motivate yourself when you have faced an unforeseen obstacle so that you can begin to move forward no matter what the setback may have been. The first thing you need to do, whether you consider yourself the sensitive type or not, is to express the feelings that occur when you realize that you may have done something wrong or face the challenge that you were not able to overcome very easily. It is natural to feel miserable after an experience like that, no matter how confident you may be. You should express your feelings and frustrations, and consider your fears about the situation so that you are not surprised in the future and you do not bottle up yo...

The negativity bias can happen to anybody. In fact, most of humanity is predisposed to favoring negative sensory input and memories over the positive. This can often hardwire us for issues like depression and a lack of motivation. When we begin to believe that more negative things happen to us than positive things, whether that is true or not, it can be extremely discouraging. We start to feel like the entire world is against us, and no matter how hard we try, the cards will always be stacked out of our favor. However, when you actually think about it, the truth is that we undervalue positive experiences and tend to overvalue the negative ones. This can make it very difficult for us to move on and let go of negative events that happen to us. We find ourselves reeling from negative events for days and days, while positive events often become forgotten by the end of the day and we no longer find any value in them or their memory. In a way, the mind is a little bit of an ingrate like that...

 Nobody wants to fail. Failure is one of the most humiliating experiences that a human can endure. Whether this is because of survival instincts or simple societal pressures, nobody wants to be seen as incompetent or incapable, especially when it comes to living up to their own expectations and following their dreams. Fortunately, there are many signs that you can take note of on your path to success that can be red flags for failure. If you heed these as cautionary symptoms that can be treated and worked on, then you will ultimately be able to overcome these issues and continue forward on your path to success. The first sign that you are on a path to failure is a refusal to take accountability for your actions or mistakes. A lot of us have a hard time admitting when we are wrong, but this can be a huge hindrance for success of any kind. If you don't admit that you are making mistakes, you will never have the right mindset to look at your mistakes objectively enough to correct them...

It is extremely difficult to discover that we fall short in any way, shape, or form. When we find that we don't measure up, it can be a real hit to our self confidence. When our self esteem suffers, it can cause issues further down the line with depression and other serious consequences. Without confidence, our personal relationships and view of ourselves suffers tremendously. Some might argue that it is society that puts too much pressure on us to succeed. We are given a tailor made definition for success from a young age. We envision success as having a lot of money and doing whatever it takes to be at the top. However, that vision of success is not often personally crafted and tailored to align with our passions. That can be dangerous, especially if you are a creative and spirited person who thrives with an abundance of self expression and innovation. It seems that the world is cruel to creative types, but this can be avoided in some capacity by changing your perspective. It is ...

hen you want to plan to succeed, sometimes the most important thing to do is to really know yourself inside and out. In order to do so, there are some important key questions that you should ask yourself, not necessarily in order of appearance in this article. The answers will help you to pave the way to your success! 1. What am I passionate about? If you don't know what you are passionate about, then you need to stop right now and figure that out. If you spend your life working toward something that doesn't spark your passion, then you are going to have a hard time motivating yourself to succeed.  2. Where am I right now? Be honest with yourself when answering this question. Evaluate where you are in life and how close you feel to achieving your goal. Don't use it as a way to get down on yourself. Simply figure out where you are and how far you have to go before you are where you want to be. Consider the resources you have and what you need to acquire and then consider wha...

The sad fact of the matter is that when you want to succeed, there are often a lot of changes that you need to make before that success is able to become a reality. Fortunately, there are many things that you can do, starting now, to prime yourself for success and begin to pave the way to a successful lifestyle! To get on the right path, you need to begin with the fundamentals. Without tending to the basics, you are ultimately going to be overwhelmed and consumed by the tremendous amount of work it takes to become successful at any given task. When we aren’t taking care of ourselves properly and providing ourselves with the tools we need to succeed, we are asking for trouble. Success is elusive enough without giving it more reasons to evade us! To begin with, when we aren’t taking care of ourselves fundamentally, we are not giving our bodies the physical resources that they need to succeed. Getting enough sleep at night, making sure to eat a nourishing breakfast, and exercising daily a...

Maintaining proper amounts of testosterone in the body is important to sustain overall health and well-being. Testosterone is a steroid hormone necessary for enhanced libido, energy, immune function, and protection against osteoporosis. In addition, this hormone supports the development of certain male attributes like hair patterns, muscles, and voice modulation. Although testosterone is considered a male hormone, women also need small quantities of it for muscle and bone strength. In general, an adult human male produces about eight to ten times more testosterone than their female counterparts. Testosterone production in men increases in the puberty stage. Normal testosterone levels in the bloodstream is between 359 and 1230 nanograms. As people age, the common misperception is a decline in testosterone production is experienced. This decline causes low sex drive, constant tiredness, depression, and loss of strength. Furthermore, very low levels of testosterone in men increases the ri...

One of the habits that has served me well throughout my life is keeping the mindset of a student. I've always had an insatiable curiosity about a wide variety of topics and I'm usually reading several books at the same time. I've read about some really fascinating things, like quantum physics, and some really cheesy things, like romance novels. Truth be told, I've enjoyed them all! It occurred to me the recently that it doesn't matter what I'm learning about, as long as I'm consistently learning. I'm like a sponge that gets dry and shriveled if I don't absorb something on a regular basis. My life then becomes boring and stagnant, and I feel sluggish and uninspired. If this describes your life right now, you can turn it around pretty easily. Adopt the attitude of a student, and watch how it infuses you with joy, excitement, and motivation. Being a student of life isn't just about reading books and learning as much as you can on various subjects. T...

Fitness of the spirit refers to our ability to cope with the everyday stresses and strains of living our life.     Quite often, the ability to cope overwhelms us, and if we don’t give sufficient time to the fitness of the spirit, or soul, we lose our ability to function properly.             Today, the evidence of that inability exists in the form of anxiety attacks.  The attacks can range from extremely mild to unbelievably severe.  What is happening to us when we experience anxiety attacks?  Our system goes into a form of shock.  I refer to as a sort of “soul shock”; nothing is physically wrong that should cause us to become ill, and nothing is wrong mentally that should cause us to experience the panic; it is within our spirit that we have lost control.             This loss of control can be momentary, or it can las...